Perasan

Perasan is a word in Malay.
Sometimes you may hear people say someone is perasan but what does it mean literally?

I would say it means full of oneself.
A person who is perasan usually think that everything is about him/her.
When something happens, it happens because of him/her.

I would say it is kind of like a false sense of self-importance.
Gloat over to think that people are talking about him/her.
But actually those words are not directed to him/her.

That person of perasan may exaggerate on things that they have or imagine him/herself of having something that he/she doesn’t have.

What do you think about perasan?
Are you a perasan person?

Gossip

Gossip is a fearful thing.
How fearful? It can destroy you invisibly with merely words.
Same like rumor, it is like a favorite weapon of the assassins of character.

Have you ever play the information passing game?
The game goes like this:

1. An information in written on a piece of paper which only the writer can see it (the paper will be reveal to everyone at the end of the game).
2. The writer will pass the information which he/she has written on the paper to another person through whispering.
3. Once the person has received the information from the write, he/she has to do the same (whisper the information) to another person next to him/her.
4. Let say there is 10 people in the game. The tenth/the last person has to say out loud to everyone in the game about the information that he/she received.
5. The writer will reveal the piece of paper to everyone in the game.
6. You will see the difference between the original information and what the last person heard.

Those who talk about the gossip, they tend to add something new on the gossip and spread it out.
Those who hear about the gossip, they tend to make enlargement on it.
Misinformation and disinformation occur.
How many percentage of what you heard is the fact/the real thing?

It is human’s nature to gossip.
I am a normal human being too.
I seldom gossip but if I do, I gossip with my own principle.
I never trust the teller (third parties who spread the gossip) but the tale (words from the person concerned).
I would not witness with my mouth for what I don’t see with my eyes.

“A gossip is one who talks to you about others; a bore is one who talks to you about himself; and a brilliant conversationalist is one who talks to you about yourself.” – Lisa Kirk

Celebrity Christmas Songs

Christmas is around the corner!
Christmas songs can be heard everywhere!
What is your favorite Christmas song?
Christmas songs sharing!

8 Days of Christmas by Destiny’s Child

All I Want For Christmas is You by Mariah Carey

Last Christmas by Cascada (original version was by Wham!)

Jingle Bell Rock by Aly & AJ (original version was by Bobby Helms)

White Christmas by Taylor Swift (original version was by Bing Crosby)

The Chipmunk Song (Christmas Don’t Be Late) [Dee Town Rock Mix] (original version has a slower tempo and much softer)

Merry Christmas, Mr. Lawrence by Maksim (original version was by Ryuichi Sakamoto)

The Fingers

People often pointed out 1 finger (the pointer) to another person to blame that person, to humiliate that person, to criticize that person, to show anger, and so on.

When you pointed out your pointer to another person, you have 3 fingers which pointed at your own self.
Do you realize that?

When you are using your pointer to point at a person to release your negative emotions, you are blinded by your ego and forgot the existence of the other 3 fingers.

If 1 finger = 1 time of mistake; then 3 fingers = 3 times of mistake.
You are doing more mistakes than the person in front of your pointer.

When you are trying to blame another person, for sure you will have tons of your so called reasons and excuses.
Those reasons and excuses don’t have to be true as long as they are powerful enough for you to blame that person.
I would call it as accusation.

During the process of accusation, you will keep giving explanation just to make sure people to believe in what you say.
Too much of explanation would be like you are trying to cover up something.
That something which has been covered is the mistake you have done.

Before you blame anyone else, try to examine yourself first.
Question on your own behaviour before you question others’.
Don’t blame others for your own failure.
Be responsible on your own doing.

So Disappointed

It may takes days, weeks, months, or even years to develop trust and maintain it.

But it only needs a second to destroy the trust you have been built and maintained for long.

Once it has been destroyed, you have to start all over again to build it up and maintain it.

You destroy it, you bear the consequences.

No harm to me, I will only feel disappointed in you.

In the end, it means nothing to me but you lose your reputation.