Think, Act, Live

Howdy, people! I have been missing in action for more than a month and now, I am back!
I was away from virtual world and fought in real life!
Nothing much, just work hard for my jobs.

People think I am too soft.
People say I should act out.
People think I need a break.

People say I should think about my future.
People say I am not doing things which can help my future.
People say I should change my direction.

Many interesting people I have met and get to learn a lot of things.
Challenges nail my skills, experiences help me to grow.
Life is wonderful or miserable? It depends on how you see it.

So, I would say, “Think with your head, act according to your heart, live like you are dying.“

View on Facebook

“It’s interesting how facebook is becoming a vehicle for people’s public self presentation (i.e., presenting oneself in a certain way to gain a certain kind of impression from others).” – S.L. Keng

Is it good or bad?
“Both good and bad I guess? Good in the sense that people get more outlet in expressing themselves, bad in the sense that people also spend more time thinking subconsciously on the kind of impression that they wanna make on others.. but of course you can argue that’s not something bad as well. Just human nature I guess.” – S.L. Keng

~ I am totally agree with that.

“Psychologists claimed that human behaviors were driven by all sort of motivations. By referring to the Hierarchy of Need proposed by Maslow, we can assumed that all the face-booker (those got money to subscribe to broadband or Internet) has already fulfilled their basis “physiological needs” and “safety needs”. Thus, moving up the pyramid, we can assume that we (face-booker) are now trying to get a sense of “love and belongingness” and to gratify the “needs for esteem”… and Facebook is definitely one good channel to get these two.” – K.W. Tan

~ I think it could be 1 of the possibilities. Social psychologists can do a study on it. It should be a very interesting study.

Perasan

Perasan is a word in Malay.
Sometimes you may hear people say someone is perasan but what does it mean literally?

I would say it means full of oneself.
A person who is perasan usually think that everything is about him/her.
When something happens, it happens because of him/her.

I would say it is kind of like a false sense of self-importance.
Gloat over to think that people are talking about him/her.
But actually those words are not directed to him/her.

That person of perasan may exaggerate on things that they have or imagine him/herself of having something that he/she doesn’t have.

What do you think about perasan?
Are you a perasan person?

Gossip

Gossip is a fearful thing.
How fearful? It can destroy you invisibly with merely words.
Same like rumor, it is like a favorite weapon of the assassins of character.

Have you ever play the information passing game?
The game goes like this:

1. An information in written on a piece of paper which only the writer can see it (the paper will be reveal to everyone at the end of the game).
2. The writer will pass the information which he/she has written on the paper to another person through whispering.
3. Once the person has received the information from the write, he/she has to do the same (whisper the information) to another person next to him/her.
4. Let say there is 10 people in the game. The tenth/the last person has to say out loud to everyone in the game about the information that he/she received.
5. The writer will reveal the piece of paper to everyone in the game.
6. You will see the difference between the original information and what the last person heard.

Those who talk about the gossip, they tend to add something new on the gossip and spread it out.
Those who hear about the gossip, they tend to make enlargement on it.
Misinformation and disinformation occur.
How many percentage of what you heard is the fact/the real thing?

It is human’s nature to gossip.
I am a normal human being too.
I seldom gossip but if I do, I gossip with my own principle.
I never trust the teller (third parties who spread the gossip) but the tale (words from the person concerned).
I would not witness with my mouth for what I don’t see with my eyes.

“A gossip is one who talks to you about others; a bore is one who talks to you about himself; and a brilliant conversationalist is one who talks to you about yourself.” – Lisa Kirk

The Fingers

People often pointed out 1 finger (the pointer) to another person to blame that person, to humiliate that person, to criticize that person, to show anger, and so on.

When you pointed out your pointer to another person, you have 3 fingers which pointed at your own self.
Do you realize that?

When you are using your pointer to point at a person to release your negative emotions, you are blinded by your ego and forgot the existence of the other 3 fingers.

If 1 finger = 1 time of mistake; then 3 fingers = 3 times of mistake.
You are doing more mistakes than the person in front of your pointer.

When you are trying to blame another person, for sure you will have tons of your so called reasons and excuses.
Those reasons and excuses don’t have to be true as long as they are powerful enough for you to blame that person.
I would call it as accusation.

During the process of accusation, you will keep giving explanation just to make sure people to believe in what you say.
Too much of explanation would be like you are trying to cover up something.
That something which has been covered is the mistake you have done.

Before you blame anyone else, try to examine yourself first.
Question on your own behaviour before you question others’.
Don’t blame others for your own failure.
Be responsible on your own doing.